Every father should listen attentively to the questions posed by his children and respond satisfactorily. Rebuking the child could lead to him/her leaving out questioning out of fear and be deprived of useful knowledge.
The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used several techniques to illustrate a point effectively:
Once the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam led the Salaah whilst on the pulpit. This allowed the Sahaaba to clearly witness his manner of performing Salaah. After the Salaah, he said, ‘O People! I did this so that you can emulate me and teach others the method of my Salaah.’ (Mishkat 1:99)
Once a person asked the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam how Wudhu should be performed. The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam called for a container of water and physically demonstrated the method of Wudhu.
Expressing with vigour
At times the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam would express the importance of a point by swearing an oath as when he repeated thrice, ‘By Allah! He is not a believer!’ On being asked who, he replied, ‘He whose neighbor is not safe from his evil.’ (Bukhari 2:889)
At times the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam would address the Sahaaba in a very emotionally moving manner. Irbad ibn Saariyah radhiallahu anhu narrates that the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam once delivered a sermon that left our bodies aflame with ardour, the eyes gushed forth and the hearts were left trembling. (Tirmidhi 2:96)
Utilising these techniques will help us raise good children.
The Ideal Father, pg 137-9
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