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Communicating effectively is essential for building a happy family. Here are two Communication Danger Signs. Couples should prevent or change these patterns to maintain a successful marriage.

1. Escalation
Responding back and forth negatively so that the conflict increases. We often begin talking about an issue calmly. Then someone says something to upset the other, who responds negatively. The calm conversation escalates into an angry argument full of hurtful comments.
Solution: De-Escalate.
a. Change your tone from harsh to calm and kind.
b. Acknowledge the other person’s point of view.
c. Give up the need to win.
d. Talk about it later when everyone is calmer.
2. Invalidation
When we talk with our loved ones, sometimes we subtly or directly put down their thoughts, feelings, or character. We disrespect them by calling them names, questioning their character, and de-valuing their opinions and feelings.
Solution: Be Respectful.
a. ‘O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule (another) people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule (other) women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by (offensive) nicknames…’ (Quraan 49:11)
b. When you realize you’ve said something that hurt the other, immediately backtrack and talk about it in a different way.
Adapted from article by: Amal Killawi
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